04. 6 Exchanges of Love

dadäti pratigåhëäti
guhyam äkhyäti påcchati
bhuìkte bhojayate caiva
ñaò-vidhaà préti-lakñaëam


dadäti—gives charity; pratigåhëäti—accepts in return; guhyam—confidential topics; äkhyäti—explains; påcchati—enquires; bhuìkte—eats; bhojayate—feeds; ca—also; eva—certainly; ñaö-vidham—six kinds; préti—of love; lakñaëam—symptoms.


Offering gifts in charity, accepting charitable gifts, revealing one’s mind in confidence, inquiring confidentially, accepting prasäda and offering prasäda are the six symptoms of love shared by one devotee and another.


In this verse Çréla Rüpa Gosvämé explains how to perform devotional activities in the association of other devotees. There are six kinds of activities: (1) giving charity to the devotees, (2) accepting from the devotees whatever they may offer in return, (3) opening one’s mind to the devotees, (4) inquiring from them about the confidential service of the Lord, (5) honoring prasäda, or spiritual food, given by the devotees, and (6) feeding the devotees with prasäda. An experienced devotee explains, and an inexperienced devotee learns from him. This is guhyam äkhyäti påcchati. When a devotee distributes prasäda, remnants of food offered to the Supreme Personality of Godhead, in order to maintain our spirit of devotional service we must accept this prasäda as the Lord’s grace received through the pure devotees. We should also invite pure devotees to our home, offer them prasäda and be prepared to please them in all respects. This is called bhuìkte bhojayate caiva.

Even in ordinary social activities, these six types of dealings between two loving friends are absolutely necessary. For instance, when one businessman wishes to contact another businessman he arranges a feast in a hotel, and over the feast openly expresses what he wishes to do. He then inquires from his business friend how he should act, and sometimes presents are exchanged. Thus whenever there is a dealing of préti, or love in intimate dealings, these six activities are executed. In the previous verse, Çréla Rüpa Gosvämé advised that one should renounce worldly association and keep company with the devotees (saìga-tyägät sato våtteù). The International Society for Krishna Consciousness has been established to facilitate these six kinds of loving exchanges between devotees. This Society was started single-handedly, but because people are coming forward and dealing with the give—and—take policy, the Society is now expanding all over the world. We are glad that people are donating very liberally to the development of the Society’s activities, and people are also eagerly accepting whatever humble contribution we are giving them in the shape of books and magazines dealing strictly with the subject matter of Kåñëa consciousness. We sometimes hold Hare Kåñëa festivals and invite life members and friends to participate in the feasting by accepting prasäda. Although most of our members come from the higher rungs of society, they nonetheless come and take whatever little prasäda we are able to offer them. Sometimes the members and supporters inquire very confidentially about the methods of performing devotional service, and we try to explain this. In this way our Society is successfully spreading all over the world, and the intelligentsia of all countries is gradually appreciating our Kåñëa conscious activities. The life of the Kåñëa conscious society is nourished by these six types of loving exchange among the members; therefore people must be given the chance to associate with the devotees of ISKCON because simply by reciprocating in the six ways mentioned above an ordinary man can fully revive his dormant Kåñëa consciousness. In Bhagavad-gétä (2.62) it is stated, saìgät saïjäyate kämaù: one’s desires and ambitions develop according to the company one keeps. It is often said that a man is known by his company, and if an ordinary man associates with devotees, he will certainly develop his dormant Kåñëa consciousness. The understanding of Kåñëa consciousness is innate in every living entity, and it is already developed to some extent when the living entity takes a human body. It is said in Caitanya-caritämåta (Madhya 22.107):

nitya-siddha kåñëa-prema ‘sädhya’ kabhu naya
çravaëädi-çuddha-citte karaye udaya

“Pure love for Kåñëa is eternally established in the hearts of living entities. It is not something to be gained from another source. When the heart is purified by hearing and chanting, the living entity naturally awakens.” Since Kåñëa consciousness is inherent in every living entity, everyone should be given a chance to hear about Kåñëa. Simply by hearing and chanting—çravaëaà kértanam [SB 7.5.23]—one’s heart is directly purified, and one’s original Kåñëa consciousness is immediately awakened. Kåñëa consciousness is not artificially imposed upon the heart, it is already there. When one chants the holy name of the Supreme Personality of Godhead, the heart is cleansed of all mundane contamination. In the first stanza of His Çré Çikñäñöaka, Lord Çré Caitanya Mahäprabhu says:

ceto-darpaëa-märjanam bhava-mahä-dävägni-nirväpaëaà

çreyaù-kairava-candrikä-vitaraëaà vidyä-vadhü-jévanam

änandämbudhi-vardhanaà prati-padaà pürëämåtäsvädanaà
sarvätma-snapanaà paraà vijayate çré-kåñëa-saìkértanam

[Cc. Antya 20.12]

“All glories to the Çré Kåñëa saìkértana, which cleanses the heart of all the dust accumulated for years and extinguishes the fire of conditional life, of repeated birth and death. This saìkértana movement is the prime benediction for humanity at large because it spreads the rays of the benediction moon. It is the life of all transcendental knowledge. It increases the ocean of transcendental bliss, and it enables us to fully taste the nectar for which we are always anxious.”

Not only is the chanter of the mahä-mantra purified, but the heart of anyone who happens to hear the transcendental vibration of Hare Kåñëa, Hare Kåñëa, Kåñëa Kåñëa, Hare Hare/ Hare Räma, Hare Räma, Räma Räma, Hare Hare is also cleansed. Even the souls embodied in lower animals, insects, trees and other species of life also become purified and prepared to become fully Kåñëa conscious simply by hearing the transcendental vibration. This was explained by Öhäkura Haridäsa when Caitanya Mahäprabhu inquired from him how living entities lower than human beings can be delivered from material bondage. Haridäsa Öhäkura said that the chanting of the holy names is so powerful that even if one chants in the remotest parts of the jungle, the trees and animals will advance in Kåñëa consciousness simply by hearing the vibration. This was actually proved by Çré Caitanya Mahäprabhu Himself when He passed through the forest of Jhärikhaëòa. At that time the tigers, snakes, deer and all other animals abandoned their natural animosity and began chanting and dancing in saìkértana. Of course, we cannot imitate the activities of Çré Caitanya Mahäprabhu, but we should follow in His footsteps. We are not powerful enough to enchant the lower animals such as tigers, snakes, cats and dogs or entice them to dance, but by chanting the holy names of the Lord we can actually convert many people throughout the world to Kåñëa consciousness. Contributing or distributing the holy name of the Lord is a sublime example of contributing or giving charity (the dadäti principle). By the same token, one must also follow the pratigåhëäti principle and be willing and ready to receive the transcendental gift. One should inquire about the Kåñëa consciousness movement and open his mind in order to understand the situation of this material world. Thus the guhyam äkhyäti påcchati principles can be served.

The members of the International Society for Krishna Consciousness invite the Society’s members and supporters to dine with them when they hold love feasts in all their branches every Sunday. Many interested people come to honor prasäda, and whenever possible they invite members of the Society to their homes and feed them sumptuously with prasäda. In this way both the members of the Society and the general public are benefited. People should give up the company of so-called yogés, jïänés, karmés and philanthropists because their association can benefit no one. If one really wants to attain the goal of human life, he should associate with devotees of the Kåñëa consciousness movement because it is the only movement that teaches one how to develop love of God. Religion is the special function of human society, and it constitutes the distinction between human society and animal society. Animal society has no church, mosque or religious system. In all parts of the world, however downtrodden human society may be, there is some system of religion. Even tribal aborigines in the jungles also have a system of religion. When a religious system develops and turns into love of God, it is successful. As stated in the First Canto of Çrémad-Bhägavatam (1.2.6):

sa vai puàsäà paro dharmo
yato bhaktir adhokñaje
ahaituky apratihatä
yayätmä suprasédati

“The supreme occupation [dharma] for all humanity is that by which men can attain to loving devotional service unto the transcendent Lord. Such devotional service must be unmotivated and uninterrupted in order to completely satisfy the self.”

If the members of human society actually want peace of mind, tranquillity and friendly relations between men and nations, they must follow the Kåñëa conscious system of religion, by which they can develop their dormant love for Kåñëa, the Supreme Personality of Godhead. As soon as people do so, their minds will immediately be filled with peace and tranquillity.

In this regard, Çréla Bhaktisiddhänta Sarasvaté Öhäkura warns all devotees engaged in broadcasting the Kåñëa consciousness movement not to speak to the impersonalist Mäyävädés who are always determined to oppose such theistic movements. The world is full of Mäyävädés and atheists, and the political parties of the world take advantage of Mäyäväda and other atheistic philosophies to promote materialism. Sometimes they even back a strong party to oppose the Kåñëa consciousness movement. The Mäyävädés and other atheists do not want the Kåñëa consciousness movement to develop because it educates people in God consciousness. Such is the policy of the atheists. There is no benefit in feeding a snake milk and bananas because the snake will never be satisfied. On the contrary, by taking milk and bananas the snake simply becomes more poisonous (kevalaà viña-vardhanam). If a snake is given milk to drink, its poison simply increases. For a similar reason, we should not disclose our minds to the serpent Mäyävädés and karmés. Such disclosures will never help. It is best to avoid association with them completely and never ask them about anything confidential because they cannot give good advice. Nor should we extend invitations to Mäyävädés and atheists nor accept their invitations, for by such intimate intermingling we may become affected by their atheistic mentality (saìgät saïjäyate kämaù). It is the negative injunction of this verse that we should refrain from giving anything to or accepting anything from the Mäyävädés and atheists. Çré Caitanya Mahäprabhu has also warned, viñayéra anna khäile duñöa haya mana: [Cc. Antya 6.278] “By eating food prepared by worldly people, one s mind becomes wicked. Unless one is very advanced, he is unable to utilize everyone’s contribution to further the Kåñëa consciousness movement; therefore on principle one should not accept charity from the Mäyävädés or atheists. Indeed, Çré Caitanya Mahäprabhu has forbidden devotees to associate even with ordinary men who are too addicted to material sense gratification.

The conclusion is that we should always keep company with devotees, observe the regulative devotional principles, follow in the footsteps of the äcäryas and in full obedience carry out the orders of the spiritual master. In this way we shall be able to develop our devotional service and dormant Kåñëa consciousness. The devotee who is neither a neophyte nor a mahä-bhägavata (a greatly advanced devotee) but is within the middle status of devotional service is expected to love the Supreme Personality of Godhead, make friends with the devotees, show favor to the ignorant and reject the jealous and demoniac. In this verse there is brief mention of the process of making loving transactions with the Supreme Personality of Godhead and making friends with the devotees. According to the dadäti principle, an advanced devotee is supposed to spend at least fifty percent of his income on the service of the Lord and His devotees. Çréla Rüpa Gosvämé has set such an example in his life. When he decided to retire, he distributed fifty percent of his life’s earnings to Kåñëa’s service and twenty-five percent to his relatives and kept twenty-five percent for personal emergencies. This example should be followed by all devotees. Whatever one’s income, fifty percent should be spent on behalf of Kåñëa and His devotees, and this will fulfill the demands of dadäti.

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